.As I listened, I realized that in order to help Jaylen regulate his emotions, I need to be able to regulate my own. It was such a simple concept, yet such a powerful reminder. 

Motherhood has brought so much joy, purpose, and love into my life. It has also taught me that caring for myself is just as important as caring for everyone else. As moms, women, business owners, students, and caregivers, we often put ourselves last while trying to be everything for everyone around us. One thing that really stood out to me this month happened during one of Jaylen’s therapy sessions. I was introduced to the concept of co-regulation, which is the idea that children often learn to manage their emotions through the calm and support of the adults around them

May has always been a special month for me. Not only is it Mental Health Awareness Month and Mother’s Day, it’s also the month I became a mom. As I reflect on my second Mother’s Day with Jaylen, I’ve been thinking about how motherhood and mental health are more connected than I ever realized.

Bride To Be Series: Motherhood, Mental Health & Giving Yourself Grace

If I want to show up as the best version of myself for my son, I have to make my own well-being a priority too. Between motherhood, returning to school, growing my businesses, and managing the day-to-day responsibilities of life, it's easy to put my own needs on the back burner. This reminder couldn't have come at a better time.

For me, that means practicing mindfulness, prioritizing movement, and carving out moments to recharge. It's easy to think of self-care as something extra, but I'm learning that taking care of myself allows me to show up more patiently, calmly, and intentionally for the people I love most.

I've also been making time for things that help me slow down and reconnect. Recently, I've enjoyed attending church with my stepson and his girlfriend. In a season that often feels busy and full, it's been a meaningful opportunity to pause, reflect, connect, and focus on what matters most.

Motherhood has also taught me that I don't have to have all the answers. There have been moments of uncertainty, moments of growth, and moments where I've had to learn alongside my son. While some seasons have been easier than others, each one has taught me something valuable about patience, resilience, and what truly matters.

As Jaylen grows, I'm realizing that children are always watching. They learn not only from what we say, but from what we do. I want him to see a mother who takes care of herself, values her mental health, and understands the importance of balance. I want him to know that asking for help is a strength, that rest is productive, and that caring for your well-being is something to be prioritized, not earned.

One of the things I'm most grateful for through Bride To Be By Tanya is the opportunity to connect with so many amazing women. While our stories may be different, I think many of us are learning the same lesson: we can't pour from an empty cup.

As May comes to an end, I'm feeling grateful—for my family, for this business, for the community that supports me, and for the lessons this season continues to teach me.

The world isn’t always kind, which makes it even more important to protect our peace, care for our mental health, and surround ourselves with people who genuinely support us.